Shine On
Q. I recently got promoted and one of my friends, who isn’t lucking out at her office, is now wildly jealous of my new title and the accompanying pay raise. She is very open about it. She talks about how much it bothers her, and although it is wrapped in a million compliments (“You’re doing so well!”), our friendship is now in a really weird place. At this point, I’m afraid to share any good news with her as it might push things over the edge. What should I do? I don’t want to avoid her.
A. As with most things in life, Gossip Girl does a much better job of addressing this issue than I ever could. Last season on the greatest show of our generation, Blair tried to make Serena “less sparkly” (to quote Poppy Lifton) in order to make herself feel less insecure, until S finally addressed the issue in this awesomely bitchy exchange.
While such a confrontational approach is rather unnecessary, the important thing to take away from the episode is that you shouldn’t have to be any less than you are for the sake of a friendship. Give your friend some time to adjust to your improved luck, and remind her that someday the tables could just as easily turn. If she still can’t cut the passive-aggressive tendencies, then you may have to cut her loose.
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