One Person’s Casual Encounter Is Another’s Missed Connection
Q. A few weeks ago, I hooked up with a guy I met on Craigslist (sounds sketchy, I know, but I’ve done this a couple times before with no problems). And though we made it clear from the start that this was a no strings attached deal, he’s been emailing ever since, asking to get together again, go out on a real date, etc. (I made the mistake of not using a fake email, giving him my personal one instead). I’ve told him I’m not interested, but the emails keep coming. So… how do I shake him off? And what’s the tactful way to handle this if I run into him at a bar or something?
A. Sick of Notoriously_BIG@yahoo.com filling up your inbox (hiyoo!)? You’re in luck. Most email services will let you block specific senders or filter them directly into your archives. Once he has sent you half a dozen unanswered messages, he’ll get the message.
Should you see him out and about, treat him with “guarded civility and thinly veiled skepticism,” (a la Oprah interviewing Palin) as you don’t want to lead him on and exacerbate the situation.
Going forward, set up a CL-only email account. And when you’ve set up the secondary account, please make sure to log out of it if you’re using someone else’s computer. It’s really not the kind of discovery that others want to come across; believe me, i’ve been on the receiving end of it. There are just some emails you can’t unsee, no matter how much you wish you could.
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